What Escorts Love (& Hate) to Be Asked on Dates
Worried about saying the wrong thing on your date? You and every other warm-blooded male out there. The good news? A few thoughtful questions can spark chemistry, build trust, and make the whole experience feel easy and real.
At Jade Escort, we know that great dates start and end with great conversation. But while some questions open the door to intimacy and flirtation, others quietly ruin the experience. So, how do you strike the right balance between curiosity and respect?
We asked our Zurich escorts what they love being asked on dates — and which questions are better left unsaid. Below, you will find the answers, straight from the women themselves.
Good Questions to Ask an Escort
If you want the evening to flow well, it helps to ask the right kind of questions early on.
Some clients try to play it cool and stay silent — others go too deep, too soon. Being confident and relaxed is best, and one of the easiest ways to set that is by asking something that invites the escort into the moment with you.
1. “What kind of date do you enjoy most?”
This is a simple but powerful way to get the conversation moving.
Rather than listing what you want, it shows you are interested in making the experience mutual — something you are building together. Escorts do not expect you to know exactly what to do or say, but they notice when a client is respectful and engaged from the start. Plus, this question often sparks a bit of flirtation.
Eloise, Zurich Escort: “When a guy asks me this, it tells me he is open-minded and wants us both to enjoy it. I wil usually tease a little and ask what kind of date he thinks I like — that’s how the fun starts.”
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2. “If you could travel anywhere in the world right now, where would you go?”
This question is casual and not too personal, perfect for building chemistry without overstepping boundaries.
Travel talk helps reveal more of your escort’s personality, interests, and passions. Just make sure to keep the focus on her stories, not her past company. If she says she loved Paris, ask what she did there — not who she went with.
Charlotte, Zurich Escort: “I could talk about travel for hours. It’s such a great way to build a connection because we both open up about the fun and adventure we love. It is far more than just small talk.”
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3. “What do you look for in a man?”
This is the kind of question that gets you noticed — in the right way.
It shows genuine curiosity about her preferences rather than trying to show off your own. Many escorts appreciate this because it feels playful, respectful, and a little bit flirty. For you, it is an opportunity to maybe show off a little.
Eloise, Zurich Escort: “Although I've been asked it a few times, this question always takes me by surprise. But in a good way! It tells me you're not just focused on what you want — you're interested in how I think and feel too. That’s always a green flag.”
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4. “What is something you are passionate about outside of this?”
This is an excellent way to shift the date into deeper, more meaningful territory.
Escorts spend a lot of time being seen as fantasy figures, so a client who sees them as multi-dimensional people stands out instantly. Whether she talks about photography, yoga, food, or languages, you will discover more than you expected. And chances are, you will connect in a way that makes everything else more natural.
Alma, Zurich Escort: “It’s such a thoughtful question. It makes me feel seen — like I can just talk about what I love without performing. That always puts me in a better mood for the rest of the night.”
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Questions That Kill the Mood
Sometimes it is not what you say — it is how and when you say it.
Even the most respectful clients can accidentally kill the vibe by asking something that feels too personal, badly timed, or just a little off. If you want the night to stay warm, sexy, and connected, here are the questions to avoid.
1. “Is this your real name?”
This question might sound innocent, but it hits a nerve for many escorts.
Names are part of the illusion — and the boundary. Asking for her “real” name often feels like you are trying to break the fantasy she’s carefully creating. And that rarely leads anywhere good. Focus on the person in front of you, not the backstory she’s choosing not to share.
Megan, Zurich Escort: “It’s a small thing, but it makes me feel like the client doesn’t respect the role I’m in. We both know this is a fantasy — and it works best when we stay inside it.”
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2. “So what is your real job?”
This one might come from curiosity, but it hits wrong.
Escorting *is* a real job, and a demanding one at that. When you ask this, it can sound like you see her work as fake or temporary. That not only risks offence, but it also kills the mood. If she wants to share other interests or ambitions, she will. But never assume this is just a phase.
Alma, Zurich Escort: “If someone asks what I ‘really’ do, it feels like they don’t get it. This is my career. I choose who I see, how I work, and what I offer. That’s real enough for me.”
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3. “You are so beautiful and smart. Why are you doing this job?”
It might sound like a compliment, but this question often feels more insulting than flattering.
It implies that beauty and intelligence do not belong in this profession, or that escorting is something you do only when you have no other options. The truth? Most escorts are in this job because they want to be. They enjoy the independence, the money, the excitement — or all three. They don’t need to justify that to anyone.
If you are genuinely curious, a better approach is: “What do you enjoy most about this kind of work?” That shows respect and gives her a chance to share something she feels good about, rather than putting her on the defensive.
Jasmin, Zurich Escort: “It always catches me off guard when guys say that — like, would you ask a smart lawyer why she’s not doing something else? I chose this because I like it. Ask what I love about it, not why I need to explain it.”
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4. “Do you have a partner or kids?”
This one might come from curiosity or an attempt to connect on a deeper level, but it crosses a line. Asking about an escort’s partner, children, or personal life can quickly break the vibe. It reminds her of her responsibilities — when she is here to enjoy a fantasy with you, not talk about real-world logistics or private relationships.
Unless she offers personal info freely, it is best to stay focused on the shared experience you’re having right now. The best dates are the ones that feel like a sexy escape from everyday life, not a peek behind the curtain.
Megan, Zurich Escort: “It’s not that I’m hiding anything — it’s just that this isn’t the space for that kind of talk. When I’m with a client, I’m not thinking about school runs or relationship drama. I’m thinking about *us*.”
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Ready for Your Date?
The best escort dates feel natural, effortless, and deeply enjoyable. And that all starts with how you speak to each other. Ask questions that show curiosity, confidence, and respect. Avoid anything that breaks the mood — or feels like you are poking behind the curtain. You will find that the better your communication, the better the experience for both of you.
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